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 CW: Discussion about: domestic violence against children (perpetrated by parents/care givers) and domestic violence by a teen against an adult (against the parent/caregiver); some mental health discussion, and self-denigration and degradation.  If you are triggered by these things, read with caution or skip this one. Hello my beautiful readers, who haven't meandered off with pandemic shock. I'm still alive, and I hope you're all ok. Writing has been hard, and most of the writing I've been doing this past year is journaling. I'm hoping to write more, and am making time for it now. This one took a long time. If you, or someone you know is being abused, there is help! The Domestic Violence Hotline:   800.799.SAFE (7233) RAINN (Rape, Abuse, Incest National Network) : 1.800.656.4673 NCADV (National Coalition Against Domestic Violence) : They have a huge reference list! Now to the blog: I’ve been thinking a lot lately—over the past year or so, about the abuse I went thro...

TW: Some talk of domestic violence from parents, and death threats. If you're in a place where the passing mention of this kind of abuse would cause you harm, please skip this one, and go look at kittens on the internet until you feel better! Kittens help that, a lot! If you're being abused, please, please know you're not alone! Please reach out, and get help. You can even email me, and I'll try to research local stuff to help you where you are, if you can't do that safely. Call the police, make a report, speak with your college (or even high school) counselors.  You Fucking Matter! Don't let anyone tell you otherwise! I'm reminded of that old joke: two spouses are arguing, about what depends on the joke teller. Finally one says, exasperated, "I was just giving you my opinion!" The other says, "Well, if I want your opinion, I'll give it to you!" This has been kicking around in my head for about four weeks; I promise the blog t...

Rise up! Stand! V-Day is here! Click for more information Every year on St. Valentine's Day Eve Ensler, and millions of women working with her spend the day working to end domestic violence. For many people, it's an unwanted reminder that "what happens behind closed doors, isn't staying there". For some of us, it's a reminder that wh ile we' ve worked so hard, we're still not there-- we haven't abol ished partner-vio lence, parent -against-child violence, domestic violence is still a way of life for too many people. One would be too many. We tal k about how many people are hurt by domestic vio lence, spouses, kids, even parents.  We   talk about source s of help, and where you can go to get assist ance. We talk about how it feel s, to be that abused person, the helplessness, the acceptance, even how much we love/loved our abusers-- because it's so hard to understand if you haven't been there. We talk about how to eliminate ...

Trigger Warning: This blog deals with rape, a politicians attempt at rape apology as a reason to outlaw abortion and the idea that only good girls get raped by strangers jumping out at them. Of course it's bullshit, and I treat it as such; however, it might be triggering for some people who have been through a sexual assault. I don't want to cause your healing to stop, or regress, so you might want to skip this one. It meanders a bit, too. Topics like this are hard for me to deal with in a linear way, as they touch on the very core of who and what being female, a woman and human means. I am almost 35 and still trying to figure that out for myself, so I can't expect to be able to explain it properly for anyone else. As always, you can get help from RAINN , SNAP , or the Hotline . You can also Google "rape survivor resources" and find myriad links to people who have been through it, and who want you to come out the other side, too.  I spent the weekend doing ...

Trigger Warning: This post deals with domestic violence from both intimate partners and parents. This can be triggering for persons who have been trhough this. As always, if you're being hurt, please seek help! There are some numbers at the bottom of the blog, and you can always call the Hotline at 1.800.799.SAFE.   I technically have a log-in for YouTube, just like everyone else with a Google log-in. I never post anything, and never surf it. If I'm over at YouTube, it's because I'm looking for something specific, or a friend sent me a song or game vid link. I've even gone digging when I heard about “newspaper print nails” [that'd be using newspaper like silly putty to print in your fingernails, it looks pretty cool] but I had never gone looking for make-up tips on YouTube. This is why I had missed the make-up videos posted by the very talented Ms. Lauren Luke. [her channel is here , if you're interested. She's a very good make-up artist, and f...